Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Decisions

I just got back from my OB appointment...here are all the much anticipated details.

When we arrived at 2pm the doctor was out delivering a baby so we drove around until it was 3pm, at which time we returned to the office and I was checked by the doctor. She was very pleased, I am 1 cm dilated and 70% effaced, though my cervix is still posterior. I was then put on a fetal heart monitor for 30 minutes, and I had to press a button whenever I felt the baby move. It was all nice and normal. After that the doctor came back in and did an ultrasound to check the fluid and measure Caden's size. Apparently I have tons of fluid, on the higher range. She then measured Caden's femur, abdomen and head, and had to redo it about 3 times because she couldn't believe it was right. I told her when I came in that I felt he was large, like 10 pounds, and the measurements came out at exactly that! Over 10 pounds! And I know it can be a pound off either way, but he is still big.
We then discussed options...she wanted to strip my membranes right there but I refused. We also talked about induction and a c-section. She said if it were her she would get induced, but it was up to me. When the decision is in front of you...it's so much more scary than if labor started by itself and you had no choice but to deal with it. It's so different when you get told you can get started right away to have this baby. It's my first baby and it's not like I had previous smaller babies to "practice" with. This is a lot for a first timer like me.
Firstly though, she recommended going to a specialist to measure Caden to help me decide, which is a lot more accurate. I should get a call in the morning about when they can get me in.

I know everyone has their own opinions on what they think is right, but please remember this is my choice and I'm the one who has to go through this.
Right now I need to pray about it and I won't decide what to do until tomorrow.

My doctor said I will definitely need an episiotomy...which I don't want but I know fitting that big head through to the outside world is not going to be smooth sailing.

So I have the following options:

A. Wait until labor starts on it's own, which could not happen before next week and I will have to get induced anyway.

B. Get induced but may end up with a c-section anyway.

C. Elect for a C-section, have a harder recovery, but have no labor, and won't have to heal down below.

I feel very undecided...and nervous. I know the facts, I grew up with them...but ultimately it's my choice. So please pray that whatever God wants to be for this delivery will happen...and that it will be great!

6 comments:

sharkiepatronus said...

I know that you'll make the best choice for you and Caden.

Praying for a speedy recovery no matter which way Caden joins us!

Jenny said...

I'll be praying. I know how scary it is, especially the first time! I'll pray for strength, wisdom, courage, discernment, and peace in your decision!

Alexis said...

You know I have opinions... but my opinions are for what I liked. What was best for me. And what my experience dictated...

I'm just gonna pray you go into labor tonight so you don't have to make any choices.

I really would be more than happy to give you some of my experience based answers to what to expect with a section if that will be helpful, but either way...as I have said a million times before... This has to be right for *you*.

Cassi said...

I've had both a natural and a C-Section... yeah - you then have a scar and healing to deal with... but it looks like you are going to have to deal with one either way... as big as he is.... you know you will have lots of help (maybe too much) after he is born ... just do what is BEST for you both...

Miss Candice said...

Like Alexis said, I will just pray that you go into labor now... so that you don't have to make the decision. I know how much I hate to make decisions. LOL. Come on Caden!!

Nicky Stade said...

I heard a quote recently, and I wish I could remember where...but anyway it said something to the effect that if only we would realize that sometimes our Plan B was really God's Plan A. We don't know what God has in store for us all the time, but we have to trust that He knows what He is doing, even when we don't! Whatever happens will happen, and you will have a wonderful baby at the end of it all. =)